Couples/ Relationship Resources

Sue Johnson’s Youtube Video Channel
Sue Johnson is a leading innovator in the field of couple therapy and the primary developer of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), which has demonstrated its effectiveness in over 25 years of peer-reviewed clinical research. To find out more about Dr. Johnson’s approach, check out her video channel on YouTube: there’s a 2 minute introduction as well as longer videos and her TEDx talk
Books: Love sense, the revolutionary new science of romantic relationships; Hold me tight, seven conversations for a lifetime of love.

Gottman’s A Couples Place website.

Don Miguel Ruiz, The mastery of love
(audio book available online or at Bolen’s Books at the Hillside Mall)

Lessons About Power Struggles in a Relationship

How to Stop Attachment Insecurity from Ruining Your Love Life.
Do you have commitment, trust, and attachment issues? Science helped Meghan Laslocky—and it just might help you, too. Readers of her book on heartbreak often ask her what aspect of it had the most profound effect on her personally. Her answer is always that becoming familiar with the ins and outs of attachment theory has, quite simply, changed her life.

Attachment Styles and Close Relationships Surveys
These surveys are designed to measure your attachment style–the way you relate to others in the context of close relationships.

The Course Of Love
The Course of Love is a novel that explores not so much the start of love, as its maintenance over time; the way our ideals bend and reform under the pressures of an average existence, and the magnificent, sometimes frightening, developments we can make as we slowly realize that love is in essence a skill we need to learn rather than an enthusiasm we simply experience. Available at GVPL.

When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships
An exploration of different types of affairs and how to untangle from the fear, hurt and confusion that often accompanies an affair. (Book available at the GVPL).

Emotional Abuse: Is Your Relationship Headed There? You Might be a Lot Closer than You Think!
A quick read on resentment, how to understand it and work with it.

Aziz Ansari, Modern Romance.
Ansari is a standup comedian who takes a serious (and humorous) look at look at the contemporary dating and romance landscape (2105). Interesting look at how texting, sexting and on line dating have changed how we approach connection, both short and long term. Chapter 7, Settling Down, provides up to date statistical and information and research findings regarding happiness, passionate versus companionate relationship and monogamy versus ‘monogamish’ / open relationship. (Book available at the GVPL)
Jeb Kinnison’s website outlines the basics of Adult Attachment and points you at resources that can help you understand the significance of attachment styles in all kinds of adult relationships.
Why We Love People Who Hurt Us.  Ross Rosenberg is a psychotherapist who specializes is co dependent and dysfunctional relationships.  His YouTube channel has numerous videos exploring co dependency.
Solopoly, Life, Relationships and Dating as a Free Agent – search for the article ‘Relationship Skills a Checklist.’ (on line site and blog)

 The Infidelity Recovery Institute
The Infidelity Recovery Institute offers resources to couples who choose to do the hard work of are recovering from an affair.