The Haven is a not-for-profit charitable organization located on beautiful Gabriola Island, BC, Canada. For 30 years The Haven has offered programs for personal and professional development and growth. People leave The Haven with skills to be fully alive, have healthy relationships and communicate effectively.
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Communication and Assertiveness: Master Communication and Assertiveness Skills Training
This communication and assertiveness video can teach you the skills that are essential to develop and keep close and intimate relationships, and your business relationships as well, by teaching the elements of effective conflict resolution. Anyone can learn to communicate better. With practice, you can choose the right words for every situation.
This article explores why we struggle to identify and enact healthy boundaries: http://www.thrivingnow.com/boundaries/ Personal boundaries are fundamental to well-being and healthy relating.
This article explores four different types of boundaries and includes strategies for overcoming boundary challenges: Building Better Boundaries – Self Help & Peer Support
Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability, TED Talk.
Brene Brown speaks to the power of vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame. Her newer works pose the questions: How do we learn to embrace our vulnerabilities and imperfections so that we can engage in our lives from a place of authenticity and worthiness? How do we cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection that we need to recognize that we are enough – that we are worthy of love, belonging, and joy?
Christine Neff, Self Compassion versus Self Esteem, Ted Talk
Also, visit Dr. Neff’s website.
pathwaytohappiness.com
Gary Van Warmerdam generously provides extensive free content regarding self-awareness and how to take responsibility for your thinking, opinions, beliefs, expressions and emotional experiences.
Reconnecting with Our Lives – Healing from Dissociation
Dissociation is the universal mechanism for pulling away from the pain of “too much.” While it’s necessary and natural for enduring certain situations, the ongoing habit of dissociation cuts us off from our full aliveness, creativity, and capacity for love. This talk by Tara Brach explores the process by which we disconnect from our bodies and feelings – individually and collectively – and the practices that directly enable us to include the “unlived life” – the fear and shame, passion and loneliness – that we’ve pushed away. By including the raw energies we’ve been avoiding, we come home to a fullness that can embrace others and the whole of life.
Essentialism, The Disciplined Pursuit of Less
In the book, Essentialism, The Disciplined Pursuit of Less, Greg McKeown makes the case for doing less, but better, so you can make the highest possible contribution.
Jack Kornfield, The Ancient Heart of Forgiveness.
A Buddhist perspective on the process and value of forgiveness.
edX.org
The Science of Happiness is a free, anytime, self-paced interactive online class exploring our most current scientific findings about positive psychology and living a satisfying life. edX offers a range of online courses and MOOCs from the world’s best universities, colleges and organizations including MITX, HarvardX, BerkeleyX, UTX
emotionalcompetency.com
This site explores in depth how to develop the essential social skills to recognize, interpret, and respond constructively to emotions in yourself and others. Comes with a Study Guide.
The Stanton Peele Addiction Website
Stanton Peele is a psychologist who has changed the addiction field. He has pioneered, among other things, the idea that addiction occurs with a range of experiences, recognition of natural recovery from addiction, and the harm reduction approach to addiction. This site includes many of his widely-read writings (see, for example, Why Addiction Isn’t a Disease and Love and Addiction.)
Introduction to Neuroplasticity and Cognitive Therapy
One example of a recent discovery with major implications is our further understanding of neuroplasticity. Simply put, we used to think our brain was what it was — unchangeable, unalterable. We were stuck with what nature gave us. In actuality, our brains are like plastic. We can alter neurochemistry to change beliefs, thought processes, emotions, etc. You are the architect of your brain. You also have the power to act against dangerous impulses such as addiction. The therapeutic possibilities here are endless.